OR maybe it is time that YOU decide to GO DARK for YOU!
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Yes, It is for me.
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Kissak, why do you keep asking him to do this or do that? Why do you continue to allow him to control how you feel? The key word is the “why”. I think I may not the answer – do YOU?
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Why? Im not sure why I let him...
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I cant keep letting him get away with the stuff he does and still gets to keep my friendship???
“get away” – wow. IMO, that sounds like you want to punish him for hurting you, which I get. What will hurting HIM do for YOU? Make you feel better? Maybe for a few days BUT long terms what does hurting him get you? Nothing IMO.
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True, In some ways I do want him to hurt and feel sorry for hurting me...Im sure it would only last for a few days, but your right, in long term it would probably get me nothing, well, maybe some satisfaction...sorry if that makes me selfish.
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True detachment is for YOU. It is something YOU do for YOU. Not to punish. Not to hurt him. Nope, it is for YOU. AND when you do it… you really do not need to ask, inform, or communicate to anyone other than YOURSELF that YOU are detaching.
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I get that, I do...I just have to get there...I feel like my heart is still too involved and its hard.
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maybe you could get some insight to what goes on in his head
Who give a rats as* what is going on inside HIS head? I don’t and honestly, neither should YOU.
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I know, but it helps me understand maybe the whys I keep having in my head...Im sure it would do no good to know though.
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Does him being in your life make you happy or sad?
What if the answer is both?
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If you can tolerate him, tolerate him, if you cannot or on a specific day do not want to see or hear from him – well then don’t. It really is that simple.
Some days I can tolerate, some days I cant. So, if I dont feel like talking I will just tell him that.
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A life that YOU control
Thats what I want.
BUT, BUT, BUT,
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a part of me still wants to be with him, but deep down I know I can
Oh…that still small voice….
Deep down is your answer Kissak
Deep down in your heart and soul
Do NOT be afraid to go inside yourself…by yourself…
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how do I make that part that still wants him GO AWAY???
Maybe….you should really just
LET GO
You have tried everything else sweetie….
How about you let go and really just give it God and let Him deal with it.
While you are letting go…
Dig…
Dig deep…
You can do this!
Eric
Thank you
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
