I said "Yeah, I'd like to hear that you think I look cute in it" and he just laughed:(
Yah, I got a lot of that too. It's just him feeling uncomfortable ... he likely just doesn't know what to say because it's a new situation. You might at some point have to actually sit down and have a discussion with him to let him know that you have been feeling disconnected (and whatever other feelings you want him to know about) from him. Little comments here and there might not be 'in his face' enough to really make him 'get' that the situation is serious.
If you do sit down to talk about it, just be aware that he might get defensive and feel blamed. Just reassure him that you're aware he likely hasn't known how you've been feeling because you haven't shared much of it until now. But that you're trying to change that now because you love him and want a more connected, loving relationship with him. And then just tell him one or two specific, tangible behaviors that would make you feel more loved, for example a hug and kiss when he gets home from work; a 15-min face to face quiet chat in the evenings after the kids go to bed, just to get caught up from the day. And then give it a few weeks to try it out.
I came to expect some resistance, learning that it was not because he didn't love me, just because it was new behavior and he wasn't used to those kinds of intimate connections. It will likely take work from you to initiate whatever changes you'd like day to day.
Oh, and take care to be patient with him as well as yourself. Interestingly, when I started initiating change in our M, I found I had some odd resistances to the changes as well... and, asking for those changes in the M brought it all out front and centre! For example, I was as fearful of emotional connection as he was. Part of my role in creating the distance in my M was that I didn't feel worthy of asking to be cared for, comforted and supported (still don't in many ways). And so as we progressed, it required I deal with a lot of my own issues, so that we could continue connecting and finding a new level of intimacy. Sometimes we are more similar to the person we marry than we expect.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
