ACTIONS speak louder than words. No one says you have to respond.
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maybe its time he just loses me.
OR maybe it is time that YOU decide to GO DARK for YOU!
Kissak, why do you keep asking him to do this or do that? Why do you continue to allow him to control how you feel? The key word is the “why”. I think I may not the answer – do YOU?
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I cant keep letting him get away with the stuff he does and still gets to keep my friendship???
“get away” – wow. IMO, that sounds like you want to punish him for hurting you, which I get. What will hurting HIM do for YOU? Make you feel better? Maybe for a few days BUT long terms what does hurting him get you? Nothing IMO.
True detachment is for YOU. It is something YOU do for YOU. Not to punish. Not to hurt him. Nope, it is for YOU. AND when you do it… you really do not need to ask, inform, or communicate to anyone other than YOURSELF that YOU are detaching.
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maybe you could get some insight to what goes on in his head
Who give a rats as* what is going on inside HIS head? I don’t and honestly, neither should YOU.
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Am I doing the right thing here?
What do you need to be emotionally happy and healthy? Whatever that is do that!
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Should I just cut him off completely from my life?
Does him being in your life make you happy or sad? Figure that one out, then you will have your answer. Also, things do not always have to be black or white. Grey is okay sometime. Remember Kissak, this should be about YOU – not HIM. If you can tolerate him, tolerate him, if you cannot or on a specific day do not want to see or hear from him – well then don’t. It really is that simple.
Imagine…..for a sec…..YOUR Life
A life that YOU control
A life that YOU decide what and who you will see and when you will see them.
Sounds pretty cool I bet….
You have said in the past you deserve better – what is stopping you then from becoming better?
Do you know what it is?
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Im not sure I can
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Im not sure I can
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Im not sure I can
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Im not sure I can
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Im not sure I can
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Im not sure I can
BUT, BUT, BUT,
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a part of me still wants to be with him, but deep down I know I can
Oh…that still small voice….
Deep down is your answer Kissak
Deep down in your heart and soul
Do NOT be afraid to go inside yourself…by yourself…
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how do I make that part that still wants him GO AWAY???
Maybe….you should really just
LET GO
You have tried everything else sweetie….
How about you let go and really just give it God and let Him deal with it.
While you are letting go…
Dig…
Dig deep…
You can do this!
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
