I know this is foreign to most women... But remember, your heart doesn't have a brain. So you are reacting/acting with your heart instead of your brain. Your brain knows what you should do and need to do and it is strong enough to get it done...but you have to stop thinking with your heart for a while to get there. Make sense?
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
I know this is foreign to most women... But remember, your heart doesn't have a brain. So you are reacting/acting with your heart instead of your brain. Your brain knows what you should do and need to do and it is strong enough to get it done...but you have to stop thinking with your heart for a while to get there. Make sense?
Ya, I think men should start wearing 'brain' T-shirts and such just as women go around with pink 'hearts' all over the place including on their underwear - how about the "cross your brain" bra for a change. See's Candies should have a brain box of chocolates for Valentine's. Comes back to what Sandi confirmed for me - love us a decision not a feeling - you ultimately make love with your brain. Ah and one more thing - you can't play good chess with your heart either - so the best move would be to quit while you are still ahem ... pardon me ... a head.
Looking for that book Sandi... I think I have to buy directly from author now. Are there any "pearls" from Book2 that you want to share in the meantime?
BTW, I decimated him in what will probably be our last game... I think maybe he let me win?
Looking for that book Sandi... I think I have to buy directly from author now. Are there any "pearls" from Book2 that you want to share in the meantime?
Now that I'm thinking back on that book, it was an E-book. I think that you can order both or just one. The most important IMHO, is the second book.
What I took away was that a woman gets addicted to the PEA, in the first EA. When that EA is over then she is craving those feelings again.(That is where you are right now.) So, if she doesn't refuse to guard herself, she will get into another EA or PA shortly again. Each time an A goes down, she loses a part of herself. I don't have the technical terms, but it's as if those feel good or in love feelings are shorted out. In order to find those feelings, she hops from one man to the next, thinking this time will work. It doesn't. Finally, all her feelings are shot and she not only "hits" rock bottom, but she stays there.
This is why I am very concerned about you. You don't care where the PEA comes from, how you get it......you just want it. The book describes everything you are experiencing and what the outcome will be,if you don't put an end to it.
I stayed up all night reading the two books. It scared the mess out of me! I give very much credit to it for guiding me back to my right mind.
Please order it on line so that you can begin reading it tonight.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
