John,

I'm really glad to see you are being solution-oriented. Real giving is truly where it's at. And you have evidence that you are on the right track:

It will be tough, but I see that it has some positive impact in the past week or so. I'm willing to keep testing this until it doesn't work anymore.

and

Honestly, it makes me feel like a good man to do these unprompted things for her.

john--it demonstrates that you ARE a good man, a good husband and a good dber. It makes you a success.

If you aren't doing so yet....please give advice on the board.

There are 2 newbies who can use someone like YOU on their team.

Bman... and HB Sailor.

Keep up the good work!

dbmod