I'm hopping over to your forum per your invitation. Still working on detaching from OM, but the arguing thread is serendipitously relevant as I'm trying desperately to connect with H.
Came into the kitchen this morning in a pretty red nightie (we are sleeping in separate rooms) and he just said "Is that new?" I said "Yeah, I'd like to hear that you think I look cute in it" and he just laughed:(
After the advice you gave me here, and a convo with my sister yesterday (she has NO idea the extent of it, but is 15 years older than me and recently left her H of 30 years for 3 months, and they are using the Love Languages book to try to put things back together)... Well I've been trying to let my H know specifically what I need.
Desperate for an opportunity to talk seriously with him, just to feel if he is receptive to change. It would help SO much in switching my thoughts away from OM.
I've been trying to find some of the books that have been mentioned as resources, but have not found them available online, so will go out to the library and to bookstores today to see what I can find.
Trying to keep my walking up, but oddly hate the energy it gives me... Makes me just want contact with OM. Actually took Benadryl last night to mellow me out. Evenings are the worst, trying to avoid prime "contact time" with OM.
Reading what GW has to say, trying to detach from my Iphone also! Not only on my end, I can see where H's constant immersion on computer/phone is such a barrier to connecting. He may be involved with OW, or it might just be immersion in projects, but... God, I just wish he'd notice me.
Football season offered us some opportunities to snuggle a tiny bit, but now there is no affection whatsoever. I've realized my 2 LL are Affirmations and Affection.
Should I buy H a copy of this book? not sure what to do.... So hard not to slip into OM fantasy when H is so distancing...
