Quote: Remember when I asked you about his tendency for conflict/avoidance? You mentioned his mother and the issues surrounding his earliest and ongoing experience with that topic. I suspect that he has felt "boxed in" much of his life.
His issue with conflict/avoidance (especially with women) is so debilitating for him that he would rather sell the business than confront her?! Ouch!
Again, I think he sees himself "boxed in" (in part) because of his lack of learned skills regarding confrontation.
Yes, Jeannine I agree that my H feels boxed in because he is unable to confront people or situations with which he does not agree... and partly his willingness to confront me in those issues makes me hope that things can change and he trusts me up to a point...
As to my anger, I am feeling much better now that a bit of the pressure has leaked out. As I said I called to apologize and then let him some time to cool down.
A little while ago he called me at work, officially to have me talk to my D (he picked her up from school today). But I do not think my D had the idea of calling me... Maybe it is wishful thinking, he still sounded angry and ungracious on the phone but he did not have to call...
As to your final questions... I'll have to sleep on them.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
