Oh honey.

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This is the kind of situation where I find it so hard to apply pure DBing principles, so I leave that to your wiser friends here to advise you. I just wanted to say that I completely relate to all your feelings right now, the incredible hurt, anger and frustration. I'm sending feelings of comfort, solace, calm and optimism your way. Hang in, dear.