Wow, Kat makes an excellent point Bobbi, reread that! Eventhough you explained it all and clearly feel frustrated that you tried to get him to trust your intentions and admitting your wrongs etc, this isnt about you. For some reason, Dan feels worthless and no right to be loved. It sounds insane that someone can go through life, even with a loving spouse and feel that way but I know it does happen... because my sister said the exact same thing.
She was married and after 12 years with her H, she destroyed the R and was bitter and resentful at him and only after 3 years of counselling did she admit deep down she didnt trust him during their R, becuase she felt worthless and unlovable, so what did that say about him if he stayed with her and loved her? So she felt angry and suspicious of him.
Crazy!
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
