How long did it take to end the affair since you discovered it?
It says Jun 15 you found out.. When did your husband end contact with his other woman?
June 15thish is when I found out there was an EA. Supposedly, after that was discovered H ended it and we were supposed to be "working on our relationship". We even went to a marriage retreat weekend and I was DBing (180s/GAL) right along during that whole time. I just felt things were not progressing much. H was participating more in the family, but I knew something wasn't quite right: not after that long period of time "working on things". So, about 4 weeks ago I went through H's cellphone and discovered texts and emails back and forth between H and OW! Not only had the EA not ended as H told me it had, it had gone physical! As you can imagine, I was pretty upset. I confronted H and he confirmed it. Before the week was out I had found out further information about the OW and disclosed the A to her husband and to others. The affair ended the day her husband found out. H had OW call me the same day and that's when I started confirming no contact between H and OW. I'm telling you: it's been a little less than a month and I already see traces of the man I married back. It took ending the affair for that fog to lift though.
