online dating tips #3

[whatisis]

BobbiJo... there is no way you won't be cute!

Can't imagine having armpit hair, I don't know how you guys hande that. Ick.

We don't handle it... unless we're braiding it, of course!

[bright_new_day]

Okay, here's another one for the online dating experiences. I exchanged a few e-mails with a guy. He was the one who initiated contact.

He gave his phone number and asked me to call him. I responded that I am not real comfortable giving my number out right away, had a few bad experiences. He responded that I still wouldn't know him even if we exchanged 5-10 e-mails. So I responded, "that is why I would suggest meeting face-to-face, coffee usually works." He responded "No thanks ;)"

What the hell was that?! He wants my phone number but doesn't want to meet me, then winks?! Was I out of line to suggest meeting for coffee?

[whatisis]

Hey, any guy who doesn't respect your need, which you politely outlined, isn't worth wasting coffee money on in the first place!
I'm no expert but I think you were in line. I think giving out your phone number too early is an invitation to harassment, who needs that!

[BobbiJo]

yes...learn from my experience! I gave out my number to two different guys early in my online days last year. Both texted me really inappropriate things and one offered to send a pic of his morning wood. INappropriate!!!

Now I don't give the number unless/until we agree on meeting. Then I exchange numbers in case one of us has to get in touch w/the other at the last minute for any reason (running late, fell in a well, you know, the usual)

[ImprovedRomeo]

waxing, shaving getting a brazillian...a-ok in my book

Suzy, I'm telling you...people are weird! he sounds so full of himself like it's either his way or the highway. I can't imagine meeting someone online and going out on a date. For all I know she could be the next Lorena Bobbit...no thanks!

[desert_rat]

I'd really rather meet than talk on the phone. The phone can help, but not all that much, in my opinion.

[flowmom]

Ladies, us guys aren't that shallow or picky about your clothes...we think they all look great bunched up on the floor

LOL. Actually I have been surprised how much "into" my clothing both guys I've dated are. Both are casual types and not into clothing themselves, but they always comment(ed) on what I'm wearing, liking my style, etc. I think for a lot of guys, it's "part of the package". I don't think it was because my clothes are especially amazing, I think it's just because I've managed to look casual (not making them look bad) yet sexy and stylish. Just reporting the feedback folks, not tooting my own horn

[newmama]

I agree with desert rat- meeting in person is like that expression "a picture is worth a thousand words." NOT because of their looks, but their body language and the ease of conversing.


Brightnewday-- that is a red flag from the guy emailing you! I mean he may have wanted to do some sexting like BobbiJ was talking about. You didn't do a thing wrong, honestly!

[flowmom]

I've read a lot of advice to talk on the phone first to weed out wackos before a first meeting. So let's not be too hard on the guy who wanted to have a voice conversation first. I don't blame you for not wanting to give out your phone number. It's tricky.

[ImprovedRomeo]

and one offered to send a pic of his morning wood.

Oh I get it is that similar to Morning Glory? he must be a plant lover or a florist. I don't get why that would be inappropriate though.