The real tough Boundaries are BEST set when WE the LBSer have done the really work on ourselves OR when we really must protect our emotional health. Never set a boundary with an expectation that it will change or snap your H out of it.
Why would I even think that you would set a boundary trying to change your h?
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We did some brain storming and tried to think of scenarios and situations
Way too much thinking and brain storming IMO. A boundary should be very clear and IMO, not require that much thought. For example: You will not talk to me that way. IF you do, I will leave or hang up. Pretty straight forward and not a lot of thought.
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She suggested that I make notes
I do like the idea of journaling your interactions with your H. You'll see the benefits of this much later, when you will look back and realize a lot of things about YOU and not your H.
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my biggest fault at this point in time is being a total push over...or door mat for my h.
Fault or FEAR or worse yet....PRIDE?
Ya know we all go into this thinking we are doormats. Until we realize that WE allow ourselves to feel this way.
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I'm really just at a loss for words when I am around him.
So why be around him? Why not just keep some distance from him?
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
