H in crisis and self medicating with OW

[nicole8]

Eric thanks again for your wise helpful comments. I talked more with my friend today. She and I talked more about what an ultimatum really is. I came to the conclusion its not something I'm going to do. Boundaries are what I need to set. We did some brain storming and tried to think of scenarios and situations that I constantly seem to be in with my H. She suggested that I make notes as I think of situations and what my boundary would be and then read over them every day. I love this advice. I can do this.

In case you couldn't tell my biggest fault at this point in time is being a total push over...or door mat for my h. It has to stop and I'm really just at a loss for words when I am around him. So the journaling and reading over my thoughts has got to help. I hope.