Quote: YOUR H is afraid of what's on the other side of YOUR road. HE knows the jig is up, so to speak. HE knows that YOU will NEVER be able to look at him the same way you once did. HE knows that he's failed as a H and father to his daughter (with respect to his personal code of ethics and character) YOU are the mirror of his failures and his reflection in that mirror IS NOT a pretty sight...especially to HIM.
Like him, the OW wears the same despicalble branding as a less than moral person. SHE doesn't have ANY RIGHT to judge him, she can't because she is just as tainted as he is....so HER side of the road feels safer to him right now. There's no one on HER side to tell him he's failed as a man, because she helped HIM to fail. She's NOT a mirror he has to look into, she's a reflection of who he's become.
I am having a bad night tonight and thought I would read about others problems to help distract me from my own. It seems I always find a little something from these postings that helps me feel better ... walk away stronger.
These words are so true and insightful. I have felt this way, but haven't been able to put it into words like you have. Thanks
Opt .... hang in there. Some days are worse than others. One thing I have vowed to myself is NOT to make any decisions about my marriage when I am tired or feeling depressed or happy. Yes .... happy. When things seem to be going well, it gets my hopes up only to be dashed when H acts like a weenie.
So, I try to take each day one day at a time. I try to enjoy the good days and pray the bad days get fewer and farther between.
I read a quote in January 2004 Reader's Digest that said, "Live each day as if it were your last because one of these days you'll be right."
Hang in there Opt! XOXOXOXO
VelvetPear
With time and patience, the mulberry leaf becomes a silk gown.
~Chinese Proverb~
