Haven't Yet Found My Way

[newmama]

Mystik, AWESOME JOB!!!!!! You are getting help, which means you are a competent adult and parent!!!

For what it's worth, I visited my best friend from childhood last night to today and she is one of those supermom/overachievers.

She is Holly Homemaker and also helps with their business, too, among other volunteer commitments. Her house is clean when her kids are not there!

while her children are up and around, their play area and the kitchen are messy! She stays up until 9 or 10 to clean the whole house for the next day. She calls herself "OCD" because she visits other SAHM's houses and their houses are not as tidy as hers. So she realizes it is NOT the norm but so what; she does it anyway. Again, while the kids are up, the house is not clean. She does it after they go to bed and she stays up late and wakes up early.

I tell you this because even in a happily married situation with an overachiever supermom, the house is not all in order. Because she is so busy, she has time with her kids but also plenty of time taking care of other stuff while the kids play, and she is a great mom!

She still has had problems in her marriage but luckily, her H has been willing to work on things...so it is not all "peachy keen" even though it may look like it on the outside.

A good mom takes care of herself, gives her kids attention. If we are giving our kids attention the WHOLE time, we can't be taking care of ourselves. If we can't take care of ourselves, what kind of mood are we in when we interact with kids? It might sound selfish but it is ESSENTIAL. "If Momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."

You are being a terrific mom for getting help and your son cares about YOU, not the messy house! (disclaimer: rotting food, wading through garbage, clothes and toys on the floor is not ok.)