My bff thinks I need to give him am ultimatum and then be prepared to stick to it.
Friends will tell you many things just so that you can stop feeling the pain. What most do not realize is that the pain will stop when it is suppose to stop.
More importantly...
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I don't like the ultimatum idea.
Never do something that YOU are not comfortable. I will even say never listen to advice (mine included) that YOU do not feel is relevant. Why? This is YOUR life Nicole. Yours to live - no on else's.
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Seems controlling.
Yep - Because really YOUR not ready to live up to the ultimatum. When you are...you will just do it and nothing that anyone says to you will matter.
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I cannot "change" my H or "wake" him up.
BINGO!
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It's me time and I am no longer standing for him treating me the way he has.
People will treat you the way YOU allow them to treat YOU.
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It has to stop.
You may not be able to stop what he does BUT you sure as hell can control WHAT YOU DO, HOW YOU REACT...
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
