Eric gave me some really tough stuff to think about. Thank you for that. I think I will take a couple days to really thinks over. My bff thinks I need to give him am ultimatum and then be prepared to stick to it. I don't like the ultimatum idea. Seems controlling. I know she means well by it though.
I cannot "change" my H or "wake" him up. To answer one of your questions Eric, yes I do really love my H... I know he loves me too. My H said it best a few months back though. He told me he was in a crisis and doesn't love himself so he can't love me or anyone else for that matter if he doesn't love himself first. Interesting though that he was telling the ow that he loves her though. This crisis he is in cannot pull me down... I've got to live my own life and treat him how I want to be treated.
It's me time and I am no longer standing for him treating me the way he has. It has to stop.
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
