I talked with someone at length today about my experiences through all of this: going from the bomb of ILYBNILWY to EA to PA...to separation....now reconciliation in the works. It has been a little over 6 months and it truly is hard to believe so much can happen in such a time span.
I've thought about the things I'm thankful for. I'm thankful that God has given me strength I NEVER knew I had! I'm thankful he put people in my life and things (such as this forum) where I could replenish that strength. I'm thankful for the 180 and GAL strategies. I truly believe that they helped greatly in that now that the A is finally over, H is able to see THAT Sunny - the new and improved one through the 180s and GAL - rather than the former Sunny that didn't have a lot of self-respect or backbone.
Mostly, I'm glad for what I've learned about what it takes to make a healthy marriage work - making it a priority in your life. I've also learned through all of this - my own personal experience - that there is absolutely no way you can save a marriage or even "work on" a marriage with a 3rd party in it. I know - I did my darndest! I worked harder at the dang marriage and thought for awhile that OW was out of the picture when she wasn't. Now that she is finally out of the picture, H and I have a real chance of not just saving our marriage, but making it a better, new marriage! Who wants the old one back??? I don't!
Being that I applied other, tough love kind of methods, I won't go into all of that. Many of you know where else to find me though, and are free to ask me anything as far as what I did, how I did it, and why I did it...and how it saved my marriage!
