I plan on not contacting him at all. And no, I didn't offer contact if he does live up to his financial obligations.
I'm going to do my best and live happily without him but still pray to God to take over because I am too tired for H's control and games. I'm praying and hoping that the Holy Spirit touches my H's heart and he starts living up to the obligations that he owes to me and the children.
I'm not even going to the hearing on the 17th, my lawyer said he will go and for me just to be near the phone in case they need to ask me something.
If H wants me and the children back, he is going to have to be the one to change now. I've changed, although I don't think he has seen it due to the fact we haven't seen each other in months. And told him last year that I was sorry for my part in the separation. And that I forgive him for what he had done to me and the children. But that's all I could have done.
I'm now leaving it up to God, it is in his hands! He is the only one that can turn this around!