You're on an emotional rollercoaster, just like all of us. When I got mad and yelled at my spouse, it really didn't help. In fact I think it made matters worse. Now she's scared I might get violent. I couldn't believe the thought had even occurreed to her. There's not a violent bone in my body, just a broken heart.
Set some goals for yourself, and then whatever you feel like doing ask yourself, if it will help or hurt the goal. For example, my immediate goal is for my spouse to begin to have doubts about giving up on the marriage. I want her to think maybe the grass really isn't greener. That means I can't be ugly, mean, clingly, etc, etc. You can do this. It will help you in the long run no matter what happens.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
