The other thing to keep in mind BBJ, is that the WAS always re-writes the marriage history to fit whatever he or she has decided to do. Their fantasy becomes reality in their eyes. We sit there and can't believe what we're hearing, it's as though you lived a totally different existence! My wife used to say I wasn't a very good listener, yet for hours I'd sit and listen to her...and we're talking hours! So I told her that if she didn't find the way I listened helpful then I was willing to try new methods but she'd have to help me by pointing out if I slipped back into the old mode. Her response was simply "if I have to teach you how to listen then obviously you can't do it" They will sabatoge any effort you make to improve the M and then twist it into whatever their agenda is. Dan broke up his famiily and now he has to deal with the guilt and the best way to do that is to lay all the blame onn BBJ. What a weiner!
