One more thing...I bought the book Boundaries in Marriage and read in during June 2009. I was amazed, saw where I had fallen short on my end, etc. Life Changing Book for me.
I wrote Dan a letter admitting my fault, owning my part in our problems. I was sincerely sorry for my contribution to our mess. He read it, said that I "said all the right things" but how could he know if I meant it.
What will never make sense is that I was willing to forgive him for the affairs and lies and betrayals, even before he fully confessed and asked for forgiveness. And yet conversely I opened my heart up completely to him and apologized and he refuses to forgive. Well, that means he will have a miserable life, but I don't have to....
