Woot! GW Way to go, asserting your boundaries and still validating and communicating. Give yourself a pat on the back. I know you guys have a lot of work ahead yet but looks like you're handling it really well. I do hope she pursues the counseling.

PS... our conversation about Bridges of Madison Country reminded me of something. As much as it had fueled my fantasy about being attracted to that guy, something I noticed after watching it 3 or 4 times also was something that helped me to squelch it... did you ever notice how eventually, Meryl Streep ALWAYS ended up bawling and upset EVERY single time she and Clint were together? It ticked me off at her. I though, 'oh for gods sakes woman, you're more than your relationship with this guy... you're not going to keel over dead without him. If it's that painful to be without him, then you've got bigger problems than losing him that you're not dealing with. So get busy, look inside and fix them!'

(IDK maybe I think to much! Hope you don't mind that I shared this... it was just one of those things that made me look at my attraction to that guy a little different I guess.)

I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.