I agree both parties have to admit fault in the demise of the M. When someone doesn't, that is no good. I have apologized to my H for the crap things I did to him. I think it's healthy and necessary. He once told me I made him file for D and I made him throw my belongingis out on our front lawn. I don't feel he MADE me do anything I did. I own it.
Question for everyone on here: did you suggest MC to your spouses and if so, did they accept?