I intend to live forever - so far, so good

[awest1217]

Here is the website that IN makes us go through before taking the parenting class. http://www.uptoparents.org

When I went to the parenting class I thought it would be all about how D is bad and how to make the best, but it wasn't. It really was helpful and the website is free and is just like what my class was. Everything is about the kids. The one thing I liked about my class is the instructor said can you give your children 4 minutes out of a week to be nice to your X when picking up or dropping off? For me it is not a problem, but that is somewhere to start with you. You have to remember (also from the class) that your wife is still part of the girls' family so you need to treat her with respect because she is important to them.

Look at the website. I think it is really good. It has a lot of videos and exercises to help you get through it. NOw if you are in a place where you don't want to change, then wait, but if you really want to make a change and at least be respectful and not be in a horrible mood everytime you must deal with STBXW then look at the website. It is free and could change your outlook.

Change starts one person at a time. If you start changing how you treat STBXW, then maybe she will treat you the same way, and if not at least you are doing what is right. A poster in my classroom says "If you expect respect be the first to show it".

Have a good day!