Quote: When you see your H, kiss him long and hard (if only on the cheek) hug him with all your heart and wish him well, then let him go. Let him go with love, let him go in peace and GOD willing, he'll be back...on his OWN, when he DOES realize that what he has with YOU and his DD is what life DOES really intend for him.
Thanks Jan, that is what I've intended to do... let him go and work on my own healing.
And I do think you hit the nail on the head as to his frame of mind. I am so sorry for him... I know I will thrive in the end. Him, I doubt whether he'll ever let himself be happy...
In any case, as you put in your post to Pam...
Quote: HE knows what I need from him information wise, HE knows what I want in order to feel 'safe' with him to begin trusting him again. HE will either choose to hand me those things on his own, in the not so distant future, or he will find that I have healed well enough on my OWN to no longer need his input or reassurances...or HIM.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
