WAW.. wow #2

[Pensacolabroken]

Kon and Kimmie,

Yep.

Last night she came home from TKD and I was a little raw. She wanted to know what was wrong and I asked her of course if OM was there.. she said no. if he was there I would have left. She said it should not have to be said. I told her it DOES have to be said and that she should tell me instead of me having to ask, at least for a while until I probably wont ask anymore. She got angry and said she was making compromises and doing everything I asked and that was not good enough.. I stopped her and said TKD is taking a huge block of time and obviously it is more important to you than our marriage. She said it is not, it is something she enjoys and she only goes 2 times a week and WILL not go when he is there and will leave if he shows up.

I told her she is denial about the effect of TKD on our marriage and that I am damned if I do and I damned if I dont. She will resent me and call me controlling if she stops going and I will continue to see her priority is TKD while she knows how I feel about it. I told her I would never place anything, activity, or hobby, above my marriage.. and I would stop it if the other person had a problem with it, her response? I am manipulating her to quit TKD..

I have not given her the ultimatum to quit.. and I have pushed it as far as I can. She said that I never supported it and never liked her going, I told her that was not true, that I AM jealous of the time it takes away from us, but I have supported it.

I told her I dont want to be 1 or 5 years down the road and have TKD with this much influence on our M.

She told me TKD is not about the OM.. they are seperate, and I told her to make no mistake, if there is contact with her and OM the Marriage is over and the likely place for that contact would occur at TKD.. and that is very dangerous..