It looks like you have been here a while so you know that you may be dealing with something other than just a WAS.
We are not mental health professionals so you need to keep that in mind and that there is always a possibility that your H may a need professional to make it through his crisis.
THAT is his choice.
His depression may have to be dealt with professionally is what I am saying.
Here we focus on you because that is the only thing you can control.
Your healing, your part in all this, your growth and THEN the possibility that your M may be saved.
You'll meet some great people here so keep posting.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am