I received a call from my wife stating that she did not feel comfortable working as an office nurse around people knowing we separated. I told her she asked me for the lead to a job and that if she felt uncomfortable, then she needed to look for another job. She then said she wants to push through paperwork for a separation agreement which will become final in a year. I again told her that counseling would be a better option if things could be salvaged. She said if she can not support herself then she will find a man to support her. I got very angry at this point and told her I took care of her for 30 years and that was a direct insult to me. I told her I was having an agreement drawn up and the divorce will be final after September 4, 2011. I then hung up. She called multiple times and I did not take her calls and she left no message. I believe if I do not follow through on this she will look at me as weak. This struggle has been going on for a year now. I am not happy and I can not force her to do anything. I sometimes feel she likes to be a bully. Well, I pushed back which she is not used to seeing. I try to avoid conflict and in many ways I enabled her. I can not live like this anymore. Bobby O
