Peace - I think that training yourself in the way that you did helps in coping with everything that has happened. We would certainly have every reason to wish them anything but the best, but I am like you...I just don't want to go there.
You're right...what a ride...certainly not one that I ever wish to go on again. And I don't know that any of us will ever fully understand what happened....I know I don't.
My H is heading in the same direction as yours. He is down to a once a week dinner with the girls - if he can fit it in. It is always a last minute invite without taking into consideration their schedules. He just told them that he won't see them at Thanksgiving and Christmas - he will be spending it with his new wife. I think it is just a matter of time when these dinners stop. That is the part I struggle to understand - screw with me - that's fine. But the kids? How do you turn your back on them?
Forward - I did receive an apology but quite honestly...they were just words because his actions didn't change. I do feel that the words were heartfelt when he typed them, but I believe it was in a very brief moment of regret. It didn't take long for XH to go back to his behavior. I don't know that I will ever have closure...I think time will just have to take care of my feelings on that one. But I am determine to not let XH and what has happened define me for the rest of my life.
Peace - I hope you are doing okay. I am trying hard to survive two teenage daughters without any emotional or financial support from XH, let alone any help with rides, academics, etc. But I continue to feel very blessed that I have them and will take everything that comes with it!
