Not being able to sleep is a sign of depression. Not sleeping just adds to it.
Your H is so lost he doesn't know which end is up. He's agreeing to everything because he thinks maybe finally this will be the thing that makes him happy. When he figures out that it doesn't, he will search for something else. Hence the slow spiral to rock bottom.
This is JMO of course, but it seems to be what I'm seeing with my H as well. He just keeps searching for the happiness that keeps eluding him.
You sound confident and strong. Stay your course, it will see you through.
Isn't it strange that we all seem to be at the same time and place in this journey almost simultaneously? You sound better than ever. Irish is doing great. Our H's seem to be drifting in the current.
Glam - I think that H is displaying all the classic symptoms of MLC....like there is a book they go by....wierd
SA - what do I know anymore....it seems to me like you say "that he doesn't know which end is up" but it obviously makes sense to him....I don't know anymore who this man is and what he is all about.
Punkin - seems to me that as our crazy spouses go through their stages we are going through ours...almost seems like we follow some kind of book as well.
After our SA discussion yesterday H reached out to me more today. He called me numerous times about small things that he would only e-mail about before and he asked to come with me and D to her activity. D actually volunteered that we will pick him up and take him in the car with us. So that's what we did. The conversation was OK, we were fairly normal with each other...but I couldn't believe his comments when I was driving....he criticized or commented on my driving the whole way....still nothing I do is right I guess...When I dropped him of he said "bye girls" and then turned to daughter and said "I love you" and left....that's it for today.
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Glad you think it's not weird LOL....yeah sometimes they do stuff that you just shake your head at and yes...eventually laugh about.
Trying to dig up some of those LBS benefits....
Freedom Opportunity to grow and learn about yourself Full control of the TV remote Nobody to answer to but yourself Go to a movie and see what YOU want Cook what you want No more doing doing chores to make Him happy....more time for me
that's a start....everybody is free to ad some
Unfortunately I can still think of more benefits being together as a loving family
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Freedom Opportunity to grow and learn about yourself Full control of the TV remote Nobody to answer to but yourself Go to a movie and see what YOU want Cook what you want No more doing doing chores to make Him happy....more time for me
that's a start....everybody is free to ad some
Unfortunately I can still think of more benefits being together as a loving family
This is awesome!! Yeah, I agree with you on the whole family thing, but having a positive outlook on what you have today is wonderful!!
Eric might be by to add rolling fatty's to the list. LOL!
We each sure got a "lemon"...so yeah lets make lemonade....
here is a good quote:
The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have
SA - NOT WALKING ON EGGSHELLS - That's a big one for me....that was horrible...never again
more "benefits"
put myself first (after daughter)...not last as before make myself happy not him don't have to justify my actions...coming home late, buying something don't have to take his moodiness and anger don't have to clean-up after him and wash his socks and underwear, iron his shirts and shop for his clothes.... LOL
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Sorry I have not been posting lately (I needed a break) so I had to get caught up with your sitch.
On the positive side you sound great! You seem at peace. You withstood your H’s mood swings, nastiness and came out on top.
As I was catching up on your thread something popped out at me that I have not seen you address/discuss since.
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my friends tell me that I'm too nice, and try to keep everyone happy, even at my own expense. I have a hard time to just ignore it when someone is upset with me...I want to fix it.
What does this comment ^^^^ say to YOU?
What are you doing about it?
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Eric might be by to add rolling fatty's to the list.
Funny Trapt…real funny
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
