I've only just begun!

[desert_rat]

((((((sandycay))))))

Personally, I am happy if a woman contacts me first. Sometimes I am interested, and sometimes not. But the "role reversal" doesn't bother me.

I don't get the not asking you out after that long of a call. Did he ever sounds like he was trying, but was too insecure? We are, I think, terrified at the thought of rejecting, especially if we haven't done it a few times.

[sandycay]

Well, I did initiate the first text on Monday because he had initiated the text and phone call on Saturday. I just sent him a text asking him if he had recovered from the Seahawks game, as he had said he would be watching it on Sunday. That started the texting and then he called later.

So, because I have reached out once, I won't do it again unless he ask me out. I like the man to be the pursurer... and he ought to know that if I ddin't want to go out with him.... I wouldn't have initiated contact, which I did.

I heard nothing today, now I don't expect him to call or text daily... I'm not saying that but I do need plenty of notice to try to make free time.... of course he doesn't know that. My GF said if he hasn't ask you out by Thursday and then ask you out on Thursday to tell him I'm busy.... LOL

Last week the Friday was planned on Tuesday so he was early enough last week. Oh well, it's neither here nor there.

[desert_rat]

After seeing you, and then talking for that long... I don't know what he is up to.

I am liking your plan, the ball is in his court.

[sandycay]

Potentially he has other match dates lined up or looking to see if one transpires, which is what he should do if he's "just not that into me". But I won't be back up date plan B.... so no short notice dates with me at this point.

I'll pick one of my daily 5's that I've squirreled away in my list and email him.

[sandycay]

Ok... went out of the comfort zone and emailed a guy first.

[desert_rat]

Good job, Sandy!

The worst thing that could happen is.... nothing!

[sandycay]

Why does it make me feel cheap? Seriously, I am having problems initiating!

[BobbiJo]

Not sure, but I know I rarely email first, I let the guys email me most of the time....maybe it is passive aggressive, or old fashioned, but I like guys to ask me out!

I have 'favorited' a few guys, so they can see I am interested, and then sometimes that guy emails me. I am trading emails right now with a guy on match. Not sure how many emails should be traded before one of us asks the other one out already...

I am not big on "rules"...if someone asked me out on a Thursday for Friday, and I was free and wanted to go, I would go. However if it became a pattern then I would say something. Or if I genuinely had plans I might say, "Can't make it, I have plans, is there another day that works for you?" If he can come up with one, good, if not, I know I am Plan B...

[sandycay]

Well.... Hunter Guy did call tonight and after an hour phone conversation ask me out for Friday.

Said he would call tomorrow to firm up plans....my battery was dying at that point.

I think he may be a tad shy in that area, which is kind of cute. He seems self assured every where else.

I have been letting guys contact me to BBJ... until today when I emailed one first... he hasn't read it yet....

[sandycay]

The guy I emailed.... emailed me back! He has a 4,6,7,& 9 year old daughters....

Ok... Why do so many men either a) have very young kids at my age or b) don't have any?

Hunter guy has none. I love kids but 4!!!!!!!