BBJ, going back to the first time STBXW were together, when we got to that point I found out she always wore a padded bra. STBXW had major issues -- in her mind -- there. She had plenty for me and I was always an *ss guy so I had no problem with it.
About one year into the M I said a careless thing about STBXW after a night of drinking and she never, ever forgot it. No matter how hard I tried, you can't take back something once it's said.
Which is too bad. STBXW ranged from a size 2 to a size 14 while we were together. I never cared. Even today, she's continued to gain since I moved out, when I see her my heart melts. She's still the beautiful 16-year-old I first met.
I ranged a bit too, but not much. I weighed between 160 and 190 all the years we were together.
All that for this response -- once you get to the point where you are both naked I don't know of any guy who would stop. Especially at our ages. It isn't like some college hookup. Coordinating schedules and carving out time to see each other takes a ton of work. You are probably going to be really invested by the time the clothes come off.
Yikes! That is right about being careful about comments.
I never, ever was critical of either of my exes as far as anatomy, performance, or anything like that was concerned because it causes your mate to feel unsafe with you. And I think that maybe men are more fragile about rude, personal comments than women are.
And besides, it would never occur to me to do that anyway. I loved both of my husbands and enjoyed sex with them very much. And with both marriages, we had sex until the marriages broke up.
This is another thing that bugs me so much. I see relatively young, healthy couples on here who go for such long periods of time without having sex. WTF??? What the hell is wrong with you youngsters?
So, all that being said, one of my best friends is absolutely ruthless in her assessment of men. To her, size DOES matter and she has been known to change her mind at the crucial moment if the guy wasn't big enough for her! And she would be brutally honest with him about it!
Damn, she's like a guy. Well, a really insensitive guy. I have called her on that behavior and she just blew me off, saying that she said those things because they were true, and because she could!
