Originally Posted By: Poe
My problem is judging how much reconciliation is OK at this stage and how much contact to have


As much as doesn't cause you pain or to have expectattions because that will hurt you and you will resent him for it.

Tough stuff to know. Only way through it is through it.

You've been at this long enough so you'll know when you're touching the burner I think.

Originally Posted By: Poe
Leaving him completely alone doesn't quite fit, but how much is too much and how much is not enough.


You cannot do as much where he becomes dependent on you.

Where he NEEDS you to get through. They won't be HIS changes then. It is the same way you came through. Yes?

Remember when you found your way. And how it felt when YOU did it?

It is a delicate balance IMO.

Hopefully some of the folks who been through this part can chime in for you Poe.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am