Life has been busy busy busy being a working single mom! H is around every now and then to help out, but man has this freaked our freak! Definitely an adjustment!
H and I sat down and went over all of our 'stuff' the other day: debt and assets. It still amazes me how we can get along so well but he still can't see how our marriage can work. Anyway, I am going to be one taken care of girl...I guess that is appropriate. H was the one who brought up helping me out with certain things (basically non-required alimony) and I didn't even have to ask or push for anything. He was left with basically nothing and he kept wanting me to acknowledge his 'graciousness' or something...like he was waiting for me to say, 'No, you don't have to give me that, I'll take care of paying off all of our joint debt'...eventually I just very calmly said, 'I don't want to be snarky at all, but I didn't ask for this situation. It is not what I want, and it is because of the decisions that you have made that we are here. Regardless of how 'fair' things look on paper, I am still losing a lot.' Of course, I couldn't help from crying as I said that, but he was very understanding once I said that...as understanding as he could be given his mindset, I suppose.
Whew...now I just have to get all of that stuff to the lawyers...funny how we're both stalling on that part. Ick.
Otherwise, I am doing good. I don't have much free time to myself, but I definitely see my life starting to form just as ME, and I like where that is going!
but I definitely see my life starting to form just as ME, and I like where that is going!
Best part of your post ^^^^
I'm happy for ya.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
