WS, I've only recently re-discovered the calm and sense of peace offered by a morning at church. It's unfortunate that my W's MLC is what it took for me to attend again.
Using 'Grit's metaphor, the water has flooded over W, yet she is dry and stone cold. I figured out long ago that no amount of evidence proving the damage to kids and families from her behavior will move her to change. No amount of discussion from her family of friends will change her, she'll have to do it herself.
You are lucky she has joined you in Bible study to be "immersed" together. Water always finds a way in. I'm finding many MLC'rs like mine refuse to get wet and are still sitting on the riverbank.
M / W: 43 D8 S6 M 10 years / T 13 years W admitted EA/PA: 10.6.09 Separated in same house 10.6.09 W moved out 2.27.10