I don't think anybody was suggesting you be friends with her. But you do have two young children that will link you both for many years to come. As your children grow older they will have new needs, new problems and new life experiences and will need both parents to participate with more depth than e-mail or texts. I guess the way I look at it is this... if you can't work with your W on small issues what in heck is going to happen when a big issue comes up with your kids?
If you can work on smaller issues now in a way that isn't so stressful you will have a better foundation to stand on when the big things come up.
IMO your W is not out to hurt you more. Sure, she is entitled but what WAS isn't? I doubt she sits up at night trying to think of ways to press your buttons or expose your secrets or use your hangups to hurt you more.
I am not excusing her behavior. Just don't give her anymore fuel.
