If you find Virtually_Handsome you'll know where I am.
I did a lot of what you did. I went to a C. Tried to get her to MC. We actually did Retrouvaille, but she didn't have any interest in following up, and that's where the real progress could have happened.
My tenses got a little messed up. My point was that DB in the end is about saving us. Maybe we save our marriage. I didn't, but I'm ok. In the unlikely event that she showed any interest in trying again, the answer would be no. I can't think of anything she could do to convince me that we wouldn't end up going down the same path, and I've already been there.
My opinion, which is just one opinion, is that what you are doing is not helping you save yourself. And it has the potential to be damaging to your relationship with your kids.
