Desert_Rat, I can't tell by your thread where you are in the process.

I would like to get to where you are. I'm not there yet.

The last part -- saving the marriage, too??????

I don't see any chance of that. I'm trying to avoid thinking that "if I do this, this could help."

I have to operate on the assumption that there's no saving the marriage and try to figure out how to thrive with that knowledge.

Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11
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