I know that you wanted to be notified. But then you said you want autonomy. Which is it? Autonomy with notification doesn't sound really likely.
Well, I think we all want to thrive. But, it we have kids, and both parents are part of their lives, it isn't a bad thing if our X thrives, as well. It doesn't need to be an either or thing. Actually, it makes things easier, because if they are doing well, they quit blaming you for everything!
I don't agree with the way my xw treated our marriage. And I like to not have too much to do with her. But, when there's a birthday dinner with the kids, and they invite me, I will be there. I can talk to her on the phone, though I am not interested in dallying. She seems to be doing ok, and as far as I'm concerned, that's fine. It doesn't mean she was right.
If last year meant nothing, you were not DBing right. You forgot to save yourself first, and maybe you'll save the marriage, too.
