I think at this moment he is so cake eating. he just goes to work, has every night and weekend free/ even though he does work till midnight or later, on his days off he has no responsibilities.

just like when he is watching the kids he really isn't. his over baring mother is in the house, cooks/cleans/launders, everything for him. he leaves the kids with her all the time.

i would have a consequence of having the kids with him on nights or weekends but he works and even if he didn't he wouldn't stay home with them, he'd just leave them with his mom to continue on with his lifestyle.

i agree that it doesn't appear he wants a divorce, bythe actions of lunch no filing. i'm lost.


Me 39 H 30
d 18 previous marriage
d 2.5 with H
s 4.5months with H
Seperation Nov09
july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline