IMO this all really comes down to a power struggle. This is not news though as you have been in a power struggle with your W for some time now.
Ever hear the phrase "pick your battles"? I am sure you have.
Often times you post that you just want the divorce to be done and over with. You post you are financially struggling and each time you have something come up that is legal in nature it costs you 250.00. Yet on the other hand you are upset your W did not put up more of a fight over the wedding rings. Well, had she put up a fight over the rings you would have had lots of legal fees to get them back. So which is it? You want things done rapidly in a low cost fashion or do you want your W to fight you on things to show she "cares" and have this thing drag out and be more costly?
One of the hardest things I have had to learn to do during this process was see things from the other side when it comes to my husband. Did you ever stop to think your W didn't fight you on the rings out of respect for you and the heirloom they are for YOUR family? Since she has opted not to be part of your family anymore she decided to return them without fanfare or argument as she knows they no longer belong to her. Instead you are mad she did not fight you more. Well, you were worried about a fight before all of this went down. Why aren't your RELEIVED there as no fight? Now you are mad she didn't fight more.
Your W can't win with you but this isn't about winning. It just seems to me that you always make it about winning or competing. And as long as you keep making it about winning or competing those old feelings will continue to fester and spill over in all areas of your life.
Don't be stupid like me and wait around for your W to say she did wrong or show any remorse or put up a fight about anything you deem important. As I have learned you will be waiting for an awfully long time (as in forever).
