Oh, I just noticed this... you said you wanted her to have autonomy on her time, but when she exercises that, you get angry. That's one reason that won't work. And it sure isn't going to be good for the kids to have that kind of inconsistency. And don't think that they can't sense your resentment and bitterness. You are not helping yourself there, either.
I know you are a guy, and you don't need help. And I rarely suggest this, being a guy myself. But you need a C.
