Darn it, CTH, I am going to have to break out a 2x4 here.
You don't want to co-parent. Well, guess what, you don't get to choose that. Is it fair, no, but there's lots of stuff that's not fair every day. I know that you know the kids are the important ones here. So, in my opinion, you have to swallow your pride, bitterness, and anger, and get on with it. And who knows, if you do it for a while, you might even find that it gets easier.
Better will happen when you stop letting the fact that she is breathing control your emotions. Until then, you are not going to be the best you that you can be, and you are not going to be the best parent that you can be. And who loses then?
