There are always so many things to think about. It gets very confusing.

I do think in many cases the WAS tells the LBS certain things because they are so consumed with guilt they can't see straight. My H told me many things (lord did he tell me things, lol!) without me asking for such information. According to him (and we all know *him* and his BS'ing capabilities) he was telling me all of this stuff to show me that he is now a better communicator. LOL!

Unless you were married to a serial cheater (and it doesn't sound like your H was, mine was not either) I think you have to at least keep in mind what place they are in. Most "normal" people know that cheating is not right. So when they do something that is not right they must, for their own sanity (which is clearly questionable at this point) find ways to justify their actions so they still feel like they are good people. I think them sharing so many details allows them to feel purged and therefore decent again.

My H was happier and more in love than he has EVER been in his life. Or that is what he says. Last Tuesday we were both at a concert (not together of course) and guess who texted me all night? Him. He begged me to meet him, talk to him, trust him again and all of *that". I am missing from his life and he just can't have that anymore (according to him). Four hours of texts I got until it was time for him to go home to OW then they stopped and I haven't heard from him since. Something is wrong with him. Clearly.

I sent out the next round of legal documents on Monday. I stood outside the post office for 36 min. before I went inside to mail them off. Come Feb. I have a pretty good idea of what round 2 is going to look like. And he is pretty sad about it according to his drunken texts. But this will continue as long as I allow it and the same will happen to you.

Getting divorced is an awful lot to handle and process. It has horrible highs and lows and finding a balance is not something that happens in xxx amount of days. I still work at it and probably will have to for a long time to come. You will also and that is okay.

I'd much rather know you are slowly building a friendship with a nice new person that you feel has some potential rather than passing out BJ's at a club like your H's little friend did. You are remarkable - your H just needed to do better. And he wasn't even capable of that. Sad really. But you remained a lady.