Quote: I have purposefully refrained from calling my H's life crisis a MLC. I think that if I label him with any kind of psychological term, I am reducing him to a set of expected responses, and maybe subconsciously shifting my 50% of responsibility for the debacle. It is his problem not mine.
I like this idea, too. Life crisis makes it more about the individual. I know I've read everything about MLC and the stages and I find myself looking for the signs, responses that I've read about it. Life crisis makes it about them, and each person handles this differently, in essence aren't they searching for themselves and what they truly want/desire in their life, it is about them. MLC does kind of lump them all into one group, with expected responses, you are so right...click "light bulb" is on for me.
I know I have grown so much since the bomb, have found myself, am stilling learning and am a much better person and it was a life crisis that made me do this. My H's crisis triggered my crisis and it wasn't asked for, just as my H didn't ask for his crisis. Is this making any sense?
