WP, I just read through your thread, it would seem like some others, my sitch is very similar to yours. I struggle with some of the very same feelings as you. My x has just filed a few weeks ago and it will finalize in a month or so, but we have been seperated nearly 3 years. I am working on the same things like letting go and detaching, yet I still love my wife and family and ultimately hope that things may work out. It is without a doubt the hardest thing to do...... detach and hope at the same time. Unfortunately we do not have a friendly co-parenting relationship. And to be honest I do envy that. Thank-you for continuing to post and to the others who reply with such good advice. It has given me hope for myself that things can get better for me, even if the M is over. Many times I have felt that I am the only one who respects the vows we took, and sees the effects of this on the kids. (who have had a really hard time with this). It is comforting to know that there are others out there, going through the same things.
Me 40 W. 38 S. 17 S. 14 S. 12 Married 15yrs "together" 19 Bomb Dropped Aug 8/07 I moved out Sept 09 OM confirmed July 10 She filed D Oct 18/10
