Thanks GW, I read the thread. It was just what I needed.

Thank you too Faith. I will continue on the same journey of bettering myself. I think it is 95% certain that my next relationship will be with someone other than my current H. I am terrified of repeating my behavior and experiencing this all over again. I guess we all are... no matter who the R is with... I find myself thankful in some ways too. I never would have dug deep either. I would have lived status quo and that is not what I want from life.

Thanks again.

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."