Originally Posted By: evolve35
How have others learned to forgive themselves for their part? I am really struggling with this today.


You will have good days and bad days.

It really takes time and hard work on yourself.

I still go back and think how I could have done things differently.

However, I don't dwell on it.

I immediately acknowledge to myself that there is literally nothing I can do to change my W's mind. She will change/not change at her own free will.

What does that leave me with? ME.

Then I look at myself and the work I'm continuing to do, so that I never go back to the person I was. I continually move forward.

I forgive myself because I owned my part of the breakdown and diligently try to better myself.

I accept that the past is the past and strive for a better me in the future.

I still get sad and angry, but I also feel happy and thankful at times too.

I'm thankful that this happened just for the fact that it made me dig within to find myself and I DON'T NEED her to be happy.