What's da haps, man?

[ImprovedRomeo]

Sol, when you have a chance read the whole article there's something else phsycological that goes on with us and them. The article explains it a bit. When we fall in love with people, or have crushes on people it's not usually the person we're in love with. It's our own alter ego that we project on them. Hard to explain it in my own words...

He told you all the details because he's not very smart. I don't think he wanted to hurt your feelings instead he probably wanted to be open and honest about what he'd done out of guilt. But he didn't take into account how it would affect you. When my STBXW told me about her I told her 'no matter how much I push you for the details if you care even an ounce about me don't tell me'. Luckily I never asked and she didn't tell. Doesn't mean my mind didn't make sh*t up but I learned to realize that it wasn't all that great afterall that it had to be all secretive and full of guilt for her and ultimately she came back to me. So at the very moment it might have been fun (for a whole 10 secs LOL) or whatever but the guilt afterwards was so great that they had to confess. I think they'll look at it as a mistake in the future even if they end up being with that person and even then it won't last. Just a matter of time before they do it to someone else. You can't fix broken people. So try not to give it so much credit that it was so great. I seriously doubt it was.

Goodluck on your exams.